An important revelation

  • Jun. 25th, 2017 at 1:46 PM
After going around to all the skate shops I could find in Brooklyn (excluding Williamsburg, because ugh, so far away) and Lower Manhattan, I've decided to just stick with my skate school that's two miles away and nice and trustworthy. I just called the owner/founder, and he says that I can order the deck (the main body) online and bring it in to outfit with the rest of the necessities, if I don't see something I love that they have in stock.

Which means I have a couple of decisions to make, and they're hard, so I'm putting it to a vote. Help me out, friends -- there are no bad options, so which one should I get?

A bunch of pictures, some of which are new )

Poll #18526 Help me buy a skateboard for my birthday
Open to: Registered Users, detailed results viewable to: All, participants: 17


Which two (2) win for you?

View Answers

'90s Spaceman
4 (23.5%)

Creature Kills!
5 (29.4%)

Good Motel at Sunset
8 (47.1%)

Deshi - magenta/blue wrench
5 (29.4%)

Oyola - cream wrench
1 (5.9%)

Coakley - '40s planes
8 (47.1%)

Stalking, social networks and scripts

  • Jun. 24th, 2017 at 11:24 AM
*taps mic* is this thing still on?

Two things
  1. I'm gonna need to vent for a few days (weeks?) until I stop having all these feelings
  2. This was SO MUCH LESS HORRIBLE because I had support and advice and information so I am paying it forward.
In brief: I went to a tech conference, I got a call in my hotel room on my hotel phone at 11pm from a man with an American accent who said he’d been watching me, it looked like I was having fun in my hotel room, and how about he join me in my hotel room. I declined and hung up. My chat group validated my initial horrified reaction and supported me through calling hotel security, getting my room changed, and his eventual discovery and expulsion from the hotel.

On stalking: It is never OK to do this kind of thing, it is not funny, it is not sexy. It made me feel unsafe. It meant the next day, until he was gone, that I second-guessed every interaction at that conference (of which men were probably 90% of the attendees) and wasted a lot of energy managing anxiety when I could have been benefiting from that very expensive conference ticket. I’m probably going to be having feelings about this for a long time.

On social networks: I was too busy being half awake and alarmed to have an effective response when this happened. It took time to process, it was my social network who prompted me through calling security and requesting the room change, I asked for my conference ID badge to be redacted on my own, but it took a few hours before I was thinking strategically and not just feeling overwhelmed. They validated my feelings, made me feel like it was OK to ask for what I needed, and meant I never felt alone.

THANK YOU.

Treasure the good people you meet in your life, nurture those relationships and share your strength when you can.

On scripts: Being prepared, having a response, knowing what I could say or do or expect can make a huge difference to my emotional well being, and to how I choose to act. It enables me to act rather than freeze up in difficult situations, it means I can protect myself, and it means I can stand up for myself and others.

My proposed future Script
  1. Complain to hotel security, that’s what they are for
  2. Request a room change, a different room when someone creepy knows where you are is A Good Thing.
  3. Complain to the police - I am sad I did not do this, awful!person could have been going home with a police record that might contribute to a future someone’s safety.
This is gonna work better from some humans than others, I’m going to wield being a white woman-ish person as hard as I can given it’s what I have to work with.

On positive action: One of my coping strategies is to try and find a positive action I can do, it helps me channel fear and anger into something that generates better feelings, and makes me feel less helpless when faced with something awful. My positive actions for this event are:
  • To share this with you; may this be in some way useful or empowering for you
  • To inoculate my workplace (via complaining about this a lot) in order to a) share my script with female coworkers and b) let my male coworkers know this is not OK and has consequences.
  • To reflect on how lucky I am to have such excellent support networks, that there were responsive hotel staff, and supportive conference staff
Chat transcript )
 

Gah. The End.

Jun. 23rd, 2017

  • 11:20 AM
Stuff I've been reading. I don't know that I've finished anything lately but I do keep chewing on a variety of things.

Speak Its Name by Kathleen Jowitt. Description from amazon (maybe from the author who we know here on DW :-) A new year at the University of Stancester, and Lydia Hawkins is trying to balance the demands of her studies with her responsibilities as an officer for the Christian Fellowship. Her mission: to make sure all the Christians in her hall stay on the straight and narrow, and to convert the remaining residents if possible. To pass her second year. And to ensure a certain secret stays very secret indeed.. Really enjoying this so far. I have a love of English ecclesiastical sagas like Susan Howatch's Starbridge series. Highly recommend!

The End of Faith: Religion, Terror, and the Future of Reason by Sam Harris. Ploughing through this. I'm in agreement with him that the Abrahamaic religions need to be history and gone from this world, not that that's going to happen in my life. But I do agree with him. Though one of the reasons it's so hard to plough through this book is he's all kinds of irritating and kind of an asshole. But continue on I will, unpleasant as it is, and that's coming from someone who has no interest in any kind of affiliation with any of the Abrahamic religions. So far.

The Rise of Sivagami by Anand Nellakantan. A prequel to the Baahubali movies!

The Healing Choice: Your Guide to Emotional Recovery After an Abortion by Candace Du Puy and Dana Dovitch. I have skimmed this all the way through and couldn't feel my hands or my feet by the time I got through it. 46th anniversary of my abortion is coming up on July 1, I'm trying to invite this in since repressing it for so long almost killed me last year (as well as my baby, I understand that). Might go through it more, piece by piece but maybe not. At least that's what the authors suggest, don't go in farther than you can stand at a time.

The Making of Buddhist Modernism by David L. McMahan. Oh my this is very very academically oriented. Not sure I'll get through this. On the other hand, looks like I can lend this one out, so if anyone's interested just let me know :-)

Happy Froday -- we're looking at temps in the lower 90s the next few days. This is probably the weekend I go see Wonder Woman :-)

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Jun. 22nd, 2017

  • 7:27 PM
Hey Project Runway peeps, new season starts August 17!

Enjoying lots of new summer icons from [personal profile] casey28, check them out on her journal :-)

Happy Summer Solstice!

  • Jun. 21st, 2017 at 8:38 AM


  1. We are having a very pretty day so far in the Seattle area.
  2. I'm eating biscuits and gravy.
  3. I left Harry inside concentrating intently on something behind the bookcase in my bedroom. Very intently. I left him to it. There could be a corpse in my hallway when I get home.
  4. I have new curtains for my bedroom and they're really pretty. I ordered two sets, thinking I'd need that for the width of the window but turns out I only needed one set, which means the other will get transferred to the closet and replace the ones there now. Though that does mean it'll be matchy-matchy but we'll see.

Have a good day. Because hallelujah, it's Solstice which means tomorrow the days start getting shorter again, hooray for the return of encroaching darkness.
Title: Baby, You're My Flame
Fandom: Person of Interest
Rating: Teen
Words: 709
Characters/Pairings: Root/Shaw
Warnings/Content: Sick fic
Notes: For [community profile] 15kisses, Prompt: Endure. Part 3 of Fever (Part One: Getting Warmer, Part Two: What a Lovely Way to Burn)

Summary: Root is convalescing. She's just not very good at it.

Also at the Archive

Root was tired of being sick )

Posted by Esther

I turned 13 in 1997, which, among other things, marked my passage into adulthood as a member of the Jewish people. My bat mitzvah was also the first time I met most of my older cousins for the first time I could remember, and holy moly, suddenly I had a bunch of cool music and culture recommendations to break me out of my Celine Dion/movie soundtracks/exclusively the Beatles bubbles. I joined both the Columbia House and BMG mail-away music clubs, ripping out thick folded sheets of CD-cover stamps from my issues of Seventeen and YM. Suddenly my world was Beck’s Odelay, Fiona Apple’s Tidal, Radiohead’s OK Computer and of course, as much Björk as I could get my hands on.

Now my formative years are turning 20, which I’m both glad to see celebrated and also totally not ready to admit. It’s all worth it, though, to see the Atlantic extol the glories of one of my unironic favorite movies of all timeFace/Off.

  • Speaking of youth culture, my favorite Beatle, Paul McCartney, turned 75 this past weekend. Esquire has a nice little read from 2014 about how the Fab Four wrested pop culture away from the hands of ad-men and grown-ups.
  • This weekend was also Father’s Day, and I’ll be real, I am a sucker for simple features like the AP’s side-by-side comparisons of famous fathers and their uncanny sons through the years.
  • In less fun features, this week Amazon bought Whole Foods, and everyone is freaking out. I’ve written before about why Amazon is bad news for all of us, but let FastCompany make the case for breaking up the megacorp as an antitrust violation.
  • Speaking of large tech companies who don’t get it, Wired has an excellent bit of architectural criticism — yes, I know — on Apple’s new doughnut-shape headquarters and why it’s not forward-thinking at all.
  • The face of America’s veterans is changing drastically, but the systems and attitudes toward all the groups and genders that serve have not. Angry Staff Officer has proposed an eminently sensible way to make these veterans visible: a new universal veteran symbol, like one we employed after World War II.

Stay brave, friends.

Do you ever re-read something you wrote ages ago and just -- want it back? want to be doing more? I mean, obviously I feel this a lot, but today I saw that the [livejournal.com profile] thisengland Shakespeare Histories Ficathon is starting up soon for its 10th year, and then I became overwhelmed with Percys feelings, and then I reread my sole contribution to the challenge, "A Mouth-Filling Oath," which takes place on the docks of 1950s London and everyone (but Hal, of course) is working class. I so love that narrative voice I found, even if I'm fairly certain it bears no resemblance to any English spoken every day. Strong narrative voices make writing so much easier, incredibly so, and I want to seize or discover one for other projects, but I never really set aside the time to try, which frustrates me about myself. There also seems to be a popular idea going around now that you shouldn't talk about your projects or you'll just talk them to death, and I get that, but it seems at odds with having a writing community, in some ways?

So yeah, that's a thing I've got to push myself on more. (Meanwhile, I'm going to not spend my time rolling around in old [personal profile] valiantrebel logs. Not for long, anyway.) The notes came back from my WW/WWI story and THEY ARE GOOD AND VERY MINIMAL, WHAT, so I need to get those turned around and also work on my second story and also work on a third and fourth story for the month. There's been this gigantic weird storm this afternoon, and right now the sunset is doing weird things with the light, but I see a full rainbow outside my window with gray clouds and peach light lighting up all the windows and bricks. The storm is also probably responsible for the hard nap I took earlier, with, again, extremely vivid dreams (partly about being some kind of shapeshifter with the ability to stop something VERY BAD from happening, but being kept from it somehow; partly about being back in Athens with both parents at a huge gala event for us, and I was being given snakes and I was delighted). I rewatched the S1 finale of The Magicians, which I hadn't seen in quite some time, and I had forgotten many things, chief among them how fucking hot Eliot Waugh's everything is. Goddammit, Hale Appleman, tall, beaky, elegant Jews who can do a courtly bow past their own knees is MY SEXUALITY, APPARENTLY. I just spent like 20 minutes trying to find a GIF on Tumblr and now I'm like, this shit is not going to get me back on Tumblr. Okay. Anyway. Phew. Hello.

ETA WAIT, I FOUND THE MOMENT.

Jun. 19th, 2017

  • 12:41 PM
Hello flist, happy Monday I hope!

I had my DirecTV turned off a couple of weeks ago. That process was a bit of a surprise. They no longer come out to take away your equipment though they send you a box in the mail to put your cable boxes and remotes in to send back to them. But the dish just stays there unless you go recycle it yourself (I think they'll be sending me recycling information). They do, however, call you for several days in a row wanting to know why you cancelled and that you can come back any time. For the record, I never gave them a reason because mean, plus the less you answer, the more they demand to know.

Anyway. For those of you who've cut off your cable boxes/satellite dishes -- what do you do for local news/TV? I see Sling TV as an app I can download to my Firestick, but I bet there's other options/apps. On the one hand, I don't miss local channels since I almost never watch network TV but it would still be nice to be able to get to the local news other than through the internet, not to mention MSNBC which is where I watch political commentary (sometimes, I have very low tolerance for talking heads these days, would rather read the news, it's better for my blood pressure). I think there's also possibilities through youtube.

Any ideas or recommendations? Thank you!

I need a good skateboarding tag.

  • Jun. 18th, 2017 at 10:28 PM
So my friend H. and I had A Day in Manhattan, which was delightful. We didn't end up finding a skateboard, but we did luck out tremendously in the makeup department! The hits at Sephora were nothing weird or unexpected: I got a tub of the only moisturizer that doesn't seem to instantly clog up every pore on my face, plus a full-sized version of my favorite eyebrow gel stuff, and in a better color for me at that. We also discovered this new shop that does everything cruelty-free, all-natural &c, and after a day of talking about how neither of us could find the perfect '20s darkest red for people with warm undertones, holy shit did this place deliver! (It's called "Written in Blood" by Rituel De Fille, and everything is SO GLORIOUSLY WITCHY for that brand!) Credo Beauty, you were not terrifyingly expensive after all, and I am so yea mightily pleased.

The goal was to hit up three skate shops, but we only really made it to one, which was friendly but not really my style, while the second closed right as we got there (but it looked really douchey, so I'm not all that sad to miss it). There are two other shops in Manhattan that I want to hit up, one called Labor, which is on the Lower East Side (and thus a possibility before my small claims hearing on Tuesday?), and the other called Uncle Funky's, which I appreciate; it's in the West Village, almost to the Hudson River, not too far from the Stonewall Inn. Then there's KCDC in Williamsburg (Brooklyn), which could be helpful for meeting up with my friend in Greenpoint who has my nice phone charger and biking shades. So. I'm plotting, is what I'm saying.

What I should be doing is finishing up that article for Pacific Standard, which my editor expects... by tomorrow morning, more or less. Instead, I'm going to let time zones help me out a little and share some neat decks that I found this evening.

More skateboards, including one that might be pulling ahead, design-wise )