But working the other way would mean them asking questions about us, wouldn't it? Not us asking questions about us.

Am I making any sense? The entire con thing is incredibly imbalanced (one of the reasons why convergence isn't a good model for me). If actor X and fan Y were to meet up and they chat and are curious about one another's sandboxes it'd be one thing (and that has happened, after all). But asking actors what they think about US...not the same thing afai'm concerned.