I MIGHT not have noticed it, if not for the previouslies and the stupid shoe thing and Tamara going all psycho

Yeah, I agree. With all the other gender issues in the episode it kind of got compounded.

The whole inference of Tamara being responsible for her daughter's death (as opposed to it just being a demon fucking with her head, and us knowing it isn't true!, like it is with the winchesters) riled me also.