I don't understand fandom in this. In any other area of your life a product of so much of you time and talent and energy would be expected to garner feedback and comments or at least acknowledgement. And you would not be vilified for wanting some recognition of your work.

OTOH I am often guilty of not commenting when I should. I rarely comment until I've reread a work; sometimes there is so much I want to say that it becomes overwhelming and I just offer a sliver of what I feel. Also, I'm at a point in my life when I am spending a lot of time driving carpools or waiting on carpool kids or waiting around during my son's Saxophone lessons (and Hebrew lessons and tennis games and...) much of my LJ reading is via my iPhone and commenting through a touchpad keyboard is a pain. Or, as is the case with Torchwood, I come to a fandom a little late and root around until I find the good fic and then gorge myself on your older works. I could comment on everything but then I feel like a stalker. Sigh.

I think you are an amazing writer and I get really excited when you post new fic and I will be better about telling you, and all the writers I enjoy, how much I appreciate your gifts, because that's what they are.

And I love Meta like whoa and think anyone who feels that you can't talk about issues surrounding creating and concrit and the like should go sit in a corner.