Um. I think I might be agreeing with you. Especially the notion that it's more about the reader's end.

Having been both reader and writer (although I don't write porn), I still find some mystery there and support angst/hope's plea to talk about it. Also totally support you in your lack of desire to talk about it.

The more I try to explain myself, the bigger deal I make of something that's not that big a deal. So I'll shut it now.

Peace.